Lesson learned

anne0625

I had loved this boy unconditionally.I did everything to make him happy, even though I was not happy. I gave everything he wants without thinking what I want. I even permitted him to cheat on me just so he knows how much I love him, but everything I did was not enough, he still left me. I was the nicest girlfriend he could ever have, but what went wrong?

You see, when we broke up, I came to realize, everything that I said above was what's wrong in our relationship.
I loved him unconditionally without loving myself first unconditionally. I was so insecure with myself that I thought I don't deserve any man that loves me. And so I make this pedestal so as to remind me, every man, in fact everyone is above me. If you see me, you would think I was so confident, but inside, I was really weak. I did everything to make him happy, where in fact I should have done everything to make myself happy, then he would be happy being with me. I gave him everything he wants without thinking what we need. I gave him everything he wants that he does not know what he wants anymore, he does not know what to give me anymore because maybe he thought I don't want anything. I had permitted him to cheat on me, losing my respect to myself and thus losing his respect too. I had permitted him to cheat on me that he thought, he could do anything and I would not go away thus he took me for granted. I was the nicest girlfriend but I was not the nicest to myself. I let myself get hurt. I let myself became a trash to the person I love. I had not loved myself enough.


Of all the things that had happened, I am still thankful that he came into my life. I had learned the lessons in love the hardest way. In order to love another person right, you must first learn to love yourself. If you are happy with yourself, anyone you love will be happy being with you. Your own happiness should not depend on other persons happiness, always put yourself first. By that time you made yourself happy, you will learn how to make others happy too. Love yourself, how can you accept a man with flaws when you can't accept yours? Be confident about yourself, learn the power of the mind. If you think that you are nothing, you will become nothing but if you think you can be anything then you can be. Remember, everything we have now starts with ones mind, then it became reality, so start thinking great things about yourself and then you will be. You should not put anyone on a pedestal or above you. In love, we are all equal. Remember, God loves us all even though he is God. Lastly, always keep your dignity. You may lose everything else but never the respect for yourself. For if you lose that respect then everything they do to you will be just fine to you.

If someone treats you badly, don't treat them bad in return, just tell them you won't tolerate rudeness or disrespectful, if they won't listen, just walk away. You don't need people who treats you bad, you just have to let them go. They said be nice to others, I say, be nice to who deserves your kindness, otherwise let them go.